• 30Sep
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    Self Love, Is it required?

    Self love is not a new trend. It isn’t a hippy or yoga ideal. Self love is a requirement for one to achieve their goals in life. Without true self love and appreciation, there can be no real happiness. So what is self love exactly?

    Self love is accepting yourself exactly as you are right now. That is not saying to yourself, “oh, I’ll love myself when I am 10 pounds, 20 pounds or even 100 pounds lighter.” That is not self love. Self love is loving who you are right now. Self love is looking fast your flaws and accepting yourself anyway.

    Self love is knowing your worth and enforcing it in your relationships. What this means is not accepting or participating in toxic relationships. This is a huge problem for most people. People make excuses for the ones they love. You will often hear, “Oh, she’s like that”, or “ Once you get to know him, he is nice”. These are excuses to still participate in a toxic relationship. Self love would require that if you truly love yourself, you will separate yourself from those friendships.

    Self love is falling in love with you. It is possible to fall in love with yourself. It is ideal according to the Buddhist teachings in fact. Think about it this way, when you fall in love with someone, you love everything about them. You vow to care for them. You will fight for them. You will do whatever it takes to be there for them and make time for them. Now, put that into practice for yourself. Do all those things for YOU.

    Self love is a requirement to be successful in losing weight. One thing many overweight and obese people have in common is they do not love themselves. If they truly did love themselves, they would not feed themselves in such a way they gain so much weight or would they not care for themselves properly. In fact being morbidly obese in a very real sense is slowly killing yourself. That is not self love, in fact it is self hatred.

    To practice self love, be kind to yourself. Learn to be your own best friend. Accept your flaws as part of what makes you unique. Most of all, praise yourself. Many people are in the habit of when receiving a compliment, they refuse to accept it. Learn to accept compliments. To go a step further, learn to compliment yourself without feeling guilt about doing it. If you follow these practices, you will learn to love yourself, genuinely.